Unrealistic Expectations

Expectation: The belief that someone will or should achieve something

Unrealistic: Not compatible with reality or fact

expectations

Do you suffer from a case of setting your standards too high and giving yourself expectations that are unrealistic or unattainable?

While at work the other day, a patient walks in and I can remember her face but cannot recall her name. She tells me her name and I apologize to her for not remembering. She proceeds to tell me that I mustn’t place such unrealistic expectations on myself. Upon hearing this, its like firecrackers began exploding in my brain. As she leaves, I quickly write down the phrase “unrealistic expectations” and for the remainder of the day, the phrase rings strong in my head.

Let me step back a few and mention this happened last Monday. To this day, I have thought continuously about that phrase and how it so perfectly fits many facets of my life. In everything I do, I strive for perfection but somehow seem to always fall short. I am constantly comparing myself  to other peoples success’s and continuously being disappointed in the many failures of my life. Why cant I be as successful as her, have a body like her, or be as good of a mother has her. What I didn’t realize until last week, was that I was setting my expectations to unrealistic levels and therefore setting goals that were completely unattainable.

Everything in my life this week as brought me right back to this very same phrase, “unrealistic expectations” yet helped me to make it through a very trying and exhausting week. Without this little piece of knowledge I am sure my thoughts and outlook would have been very different. What I have learned is such a valuable lesson I can use to keep myself in check every time I am feeling less successful than I think I should be.

As written in an article on Psychcentral.com; Unrealistic expectations give substance, heft, and power to an unrealized goal. They squash the budding crocus of success as it pushes through the thick asphalt of failure. Unrealistic expectations kill the flowering of dreams, because you become so disappointed that you give up hope.

So often we don’t see the success in our life because we are too busy focusing on the one or two things we failed in. Why not set our goals and expectations at a lower standard so that we can actually reach them in a reasonable amount of time and then set a new higher goal that is a step up from the one we just achieved? Now I recall what Chalene Johnson was trying to do in her book PUSH.

Check out this earlier post I wrote about success

Are there areas in your life you find yourself setting unrealistic expectations? What steps are you going to take to lower your expectations and make your goal attainable?

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Do you suffer from the winter blues?

As usual, like a butterfly emerges from its cocoon, the sun is beginning to shine and I find myself coming out of my winter funk. Every year I go through what some would describe as seasonal depression or SAD (seasonal affective disorder). Come October, my husband mentions to me that its that time again and I’m going into my “depression”. For years, this bothered me and I denied it. He called it depression but I didn’t feel depressed or sad, I simply lost motivation and would lay around the house a majority of the day. It wasn’t until this past month, I read an article in a magazine that sparked my interest. It spoke about how to stay motivated in your fitness routine during the winter months when it is cold and wet. In this article, is where I read about SAD. I couldn’t believe what I was reading; there was actually a diagnosis, per say, that fit exactly what I was feeling. This in itself has given me some power in my thinking. I no longer have to feel guilty for what I go through or feel as if I am a lazy unmotivated person. There really is a reason why I feel and act this way. Being that I live in the Pacific NW, there is a major lack of Vitamin D (sun), which is one of the reasons SAD is more common in the regions of the world that  lack sun.

Sitting here today typing this, the sky is the brightest of blue that I have seen since last Summer and the sun is shining. Reminds me of that song by the Beatles, Here comes the sun. Perhaps this will be my new theme song. In case you have never heard this song (gasp), it sings about it being a long, cold, lonely winter but the sun is here and smiles are returning to our faces so its going to be alright. What a great song!

Armed and ready I have come up with a plan to attack this:

1. Vitamin D

2. Shakeology, gives me my daily dose of vitamins/minerals, reduces cravings, aids in weight loss, gives me energy, and so much more

3. Fitness program, most likely will do a hybrid program of P90X and TurboFire or may try a new program like Body Beast

4. Ultimate Reset Cleanse to restart my system and get it worki, ng right

5. Lots of Sun and outdoors

6. Weekly bike rides with the ladies: fitness and fun all in one

7 . Take the kids to the park to get that sun and get some good bonding time

8. Weekly planned fitness walk/run like I did last year with a group of ladies: again fitness and fun all in one.

9. Reading; always uplifting and motivating (I have 3 books going right now that I have been unsuccessful at finishing since fall) Peace and Plenty: Finding Your Path to Financial Serenity, The Daily Fix: Your guide to healthy habits for good nutrition, and the Artist’s Way: A Spiritual Path to Higher Creativity.

10.Clean eating which requires planning ahead to make the most of my money and yummy meals. Check out this post on eating clean

And now I raise my glass to: motivation, better nutrition, health, vitality, and a spring full of sun.

What do you do to stay motivated in your fitness routine?

Lessons in less is more

We need to become less in order to become more                       

Have you ever been overly motivated and enthusiastic that it caused you to become unmotivated? Is there such a thing? I hope I am not the only one this has happened to.

Christmas season 2011 brought changes in my life that were quite unexpected and a little unwelcome, if I may say. I found myself suddenly unmotivated in my fitness and nutrition journey and no matter what I tried, I couldn’t regain my motivation. I felt unsettled with this lack of motivation and refused to let it win. Until….I just gave in. I didn’t give into the junk, and the weight gain, and the chemicals; I gave into the lack of motivation and honored my body trying to tell me it needed a break. My mind, body, and spirit were downright tired and all I needed to do was settle into the fact that I needed a time out.

My body then began transforming from the inside out and working on my inner strength rather than my outer strength. My Monday morning walk with friends became Monday morning coffee with friends in which we formed a strong sisterhood.  Through this sisterhood I was able to build my inner strength and regain my motivation, but in an entirely different way.

Focusing on less being more, I have been able to stay focused on my health, nutrition, and fitness without feeling like it is consuming my life. I have gained many amazing relationships, an inner and outer beauty, and a peace of mind that I am where I should be physically, spiritually, and mentally. I am able to use the tools and knowledge I learned previously but in a more resourceful and productive manner.

I encourage you to focus on doing less and becoming less to BECOME MORE! There is a season of change that is in the air and instead of fighting it, just let go of the reigns. Calm yourself and surrender to the power of yourself trusting that your body and spirit will guide you to becoming more.

Helpful Resources:

http://www.domesticserenity.org/2012/09/time-for-less/

http://www.simpleabundance.com/

I have been working through a 30 day cha

I have been working through a 30 day challenge and while looking back in my PUSH journal I came across this definition I wrote for what success means in my life. I remember at the time I wrote it I wasn’t all that happy with but couldn’t come up with anything more. Now reading it, I am very satisfied with it and amazed at how it completely applies to my life.

Success is the moment you realize you can be anything you put your mind to. It’s a time when you can fail and still pick yourself up and push forward. Success is finding the place in life that makes you happy and unstoppable. It’s reaching your fullest potential and still striving for more.

Share with me what your definition of success is?

Two timeless principles of nutrition: 1.

Two timeless principles of nutrition:

1. The closer a food is to the state in which God produced it, the healthier it is
2. Everything you put in your body is a choice. All choices have consequences.

Just another reason to consider Shakeology to take the guess work out of what you are putting in your body. It is one easy meal you don’t have to second guess yourself on.

http://www.myshakeology.com/davis8089

Make a change today

Health, Fitness, and Nutrition Motivation

As I’m sure you are aware, I am an Independent Team Beachbody Coach.  I have a huge passion for health and fitness and want to help encourage and support others in reaching their health and fitness goals.  I share this with you for two reasons:

1. I want to reach out to as many people as humanly possible, to get the word out that I want to help them be successful in reaching their health and fitness goals. There is only so much I can do with my extended network but with your help, we can reach out to others together and give them the encouragement and motivation they need. So it’s as simple as communicating with others about me, my passion, and my business and sending me any interested referrals. 

2. The future of your health is important! Many people struggle with the idea of exercising and eating healthy and its become a major epidemic! The whole reason I joined with Team Beachbody was to help End the Trend of Obesity. Our health and the future of our children’s health is at stake! Together we can help build a healthy future for our children and our grandchildren. So I ask that you just take a few moments to consider your health and ask yourself, “What changes can I make in my life today, to provide a healthier future for myself and my family?” It only takes a few changes and discipline to lessen your health risk factors. Will you join me in helping to end the trend?

If you are struggling to make TODAY the day you make a change, invest in your future and let me guide you to a healthier, more fit, YOU!

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http://www.beachbodycoach.com/davis8089  or  facebook.com/chasingfit