Photoshopped sticks and boards

Over a year has gone by since I was able to look in the mirror and be happy with the image that reflected back at me. Is this you? Well it doesn’t have to be.

As an American, I find that our society is particularly very critical of curves. Many societies embrace the curves and find them appealing. What is happening to our society that we are so focused on having no body fat and no curves? Do you know you can have an average body fat yet still have curves?

The problem comes down to a society that is solely focusing on the images we see in the magazines and on television. Did we forget that those magazine images are photoshopped and edited to the point of the real person being almost unrecognizable? Did we forget that those models, celebrities, actors have that title as a career and therefore focus their entire career on their image. People, we are real, honest, hardworking individuals but our career is not that of those celebrities.

Have you heard the song by Meghan TrainorAll about that bass“? Here is a piece of the lyrics: …….”I see the magazine workin’ that Photoshop
We know that sh** ain’t real
C’mon now, make it stop
If you got beauty, beauty, just raise ’em up
‘Cause every inch of you is perfect
From the bottom to the top
Yeah, my mama she told me don’t worry about your size
She says, “Boys like a little more booty to hold at night.”
You know I won’t be no stick figure silicone Barbie doll
So if that’s what you’re into then go ahead and move along
……But I’m here to tell ya
Every inch of you is perfect from the bottom to the top”……..

The first time I heard these lyrics I couldn’t stop laughing and smiling from ear to ear. It’s about time someone sings about the truths and realities. What I love, is how she speaks about loving the body you have. “Every inch of you is perfect from the bottom to the top.”

Ladies, let’s stop comparing ourselves to everyone else out there. No one is in your shoes or your body. What’s important we focus on is showing the world the very best of you. Your you is different than your neighbors you. If we focus on presenting our very best perhaps we can help change the lives and outlooks of our children and children’s children. I have read several times to never let your children hear you say “I’m fat” or “I’m not skinny enough”. What are we teaching our children when we say these kinds of things? Try rephrasing and say” I’m not my very best me, but I am working on getting healthy and fit”. Isn’t being healthy more important than being skinny? Health provides us with longevity and vitality. Skinny just makes us look skinny. Fit shows our strength, dedication, motivation, freedom. Now you tell me what message you would rather send to others? Join me in getting healthy and fit not just skinny.


Overcoming the perception of our body image

After one of my recent posts on taking on a new shape, I received some positive feedback from close friends and family members, that had me re-thinking of how I see my body. It has become apparent to me that as women, we often see ourselves differently in the mirror than how we look in reality. I’m sure this is not news to you. I have often wondered why I look better in some dressing room mirrors than others and I have always joked with others “well you haven’t seen me naked”, in response to the positive and caring comments of how skinny I am or in shape I am.

I will confess at this present moment that I am just your everyday average body type and I guess I should be feeling thankful for this. I am a 5’6″ gal weighing in at 150 lbs. But, that 150 lbs is tipping the scales for me. Honestly I am 10 lbs heavier than I have ever been, outside of pregnancies. Even after giving birth, I weighed less than I do now.

But enough, about me and onto the purpose of this post……



I was browsing Pinterest today and came across a Pin about real body images. The site, My Body Gallery, allows you to enter in your body stats (height, weight, age range, clothing sizes, body shape) and then shows you pictures of real women who have the same body type of you. The purpose of this site: “It is a place for women to post their true and accurate pictures. And for other women to see that the world is not a place of cookie cutters. We are all different in our body shape and size as well as our place in our journey to loving our bodies exactly as they are, not as we (or others) think they should be.” I think this is a brilliant idea but at the same time so sad that we as women have come to this.

Its time to…….



If only we could start valuing ourselves and our bodies for what they are……