Unrealistic Expectations

Expectation: The belief that someone will or should achieve something

Unrealistic: Not compatible with reality or fact


Do you suffer from a case of setting your standards too high and giving yourself expectations that are unrealistic or unattainable?

While at work the other day, a patient walks in and I can remember her face but cannot recall her name. She tells me her name and I apologize to her for not remembering. She proceeds to tell me that I mustn’t place such unrealistic expectations on myself. Upon hearing this, its like firecrackers began exploding in my brain. As she leaves, I quickly write down the phrase “unrealistic expectations” and for the remainder of the day, the phrase rings strong in my head.

Let me step back a few and mention this happened last Monday. To this day, I have thought continuously about that phrase and how it so perfectly fits many facets of my life. In everything I do, I strive for perfection but somehow seem to always fall short. I am constantly comparing myself  to other peoples success’s and continuously being disappointed in the many failures of my life. Why cant I be as successful as her, have a body like her, or be as good of a mother has her. What I didn’t realize until last week, was that I was setting my expectations to unrealistic levels and therefore setting goals that were completely unattainable.

Everything in my life this week as brought me right back to this very same phrase, “unrealistic expectations” yet helped me to make it through a very trying and exhausting week. Without this little piece of knowledge I am sure my thoughts and outlook would have been very different. What I have learned is such a valuable lesson I can use to keep myself in check every time I am feeling less successful than I think I should be.

As written in an article on Psychcentral.com; Unrealistic expectations give substance, heft, and power to an unrealized goal. They squash the budding crocus of success as it pushes through the thick asphalt of failure. Unrealistic expectations kill the flowering of dreams, because you become so disappointed that you give up hope.

So often we don’t see the success in our life because we are too busy focusing on the one or two things we failed in. Why not set our goals and expectations at a lower standard so that we can actually reach them in a reasonable amount of time and then set a new higher goal that is a step up from the one we just achieved? Now I recall what Chalene Johnson was trying to do in her book PUSH.

Check out this earlier post I wrote about success

Are there areas in your life you find yourself setting unrealistic expectations? What steps are you going to take to lower your expectations and make your goal attainable?


Do you suffer from the winter blues?

As usual, like a butterfly emerges from its cocoon, the sun is beginning to shine and I find myself coming out of my winter funk. Every year I go through what some would describe as seasonal depression or SAD (seasonal affective disorder). Come October, my husband mentions to me that its that time again and I’m going into my “depression”. For years, this bothered me and I denied it. He called it depression but I didn’t feel depressed or sad, I simply lost motivation and would lay around the house a majority of the day. It wasn’t until this past month, I read an article in a magazine that sparked my interest. It spoke about how to stay motivated in your fitness routine during the winter months when it is cold and wet. In this article, is where I read about SAD. I couldn’t believe what I was reading; there was actually a diagnosis, per say, that fit exactly what I was feeling. This in itself has given me some power in my thinking. I no longer have to feel guilty for what I go through or feel as if I am a lazy unmotivated person. There really is a reason why I feel and act this way. Being that I live in the Pacific NW, there is a major lack of Vitamin D (sun), which is one of the reasons SAD is more common in the regions of the world that  lack sun.

Sitting here today typing this, the sky is the brightest of blue that I have seen since last Summer and the sun is shining. Reminds me of that song by the Beatles, Here comes the sun. Perhaps this will be my new theme song. In case you have never heard this song (gasp), it sings about it being a long, cold, lonely winter but the sun is here and smiles are returning to our faces so its going to be alright. What a great song!

Armed and ready I have come up with a plan to attack this:

1. Vitamin D

2. Shakeology, gives me my daily dose of vitamins/minerals, reduces cravings, aids in weight loss, gives me energy, and so much more

3. Fitness program, most likely will do a hybrid program of P90X and TurboFire or may try a new program like Body Beast

4. Ultimate Reset Cleanse to restart my system and get it worki, ng right

5. Lots of Sun and outdoors

6. Weekly bike rides with the ladies: fitness and fun all in one

7 . Take the kids to the park to get that sun and get some good bonding time

8. Weekly planned fitness walk/run like I did last year with a group of ladies: again fitness and fun all in one.

9. Reading; always uplifting and motivating (I have 3 books going right now that I have been unsuccessful at finishing since fall) Peace and Plenty: Finding Your Path to Financial Serenity, The Daily Fix: Your guide to healthy habits for good nutrition, and the Artist’s Way: A Spiritual Path to Higher Creativity.

10.Clean eating which requires planning ahead to make the most of my money and yummy meals. Check out this post on eating clean

And now I raise my glass to: motivation, better nutrition, health, vitality, and a spring full of sun.

What do you do to stay motivated in your fitness routine?